Everything on earth and in heaven
has a purpose. If that’s so then every negative force also has a raison d’etre.
It’s a tough one to swallow especially when you feel that your life’s been
plagued by a series of tragedy, miseries, mishaps, mayhem and plain, old bad
luck. It’s even worse when we believe that other people out there have not
suffered similar fates and would never understand how it is for you.
You and your life are unique. You
and your life are dysfunctional. You and your life are like buds that have
never had enough water or sunshine to flourish. You and your life parted
company long ago and now you think you’re living someone else’s life – you just
don’t recognize it anymore!
Your life has been hijacked and
there are hostages. At least that’s how
it feels whenever you try to follow your heart and do something meaningful.
Emotional obstacles, financial obstacles, environmental obstacles all appear to
thwart your plans. This is the grand plan since you are meant to miss some
opportunities as you’re not ready for some and missing some of them could
even save your life.
|Stroke of luck?|
Just think of the job applicant
on 9/11 (01) who threw a sickie as he changed his mind about attending an interview at a brokerage firm in the North
Tower. Yup, the boy done good! When you miss a plane, train, bus or taxi there
could be a reason so never curse your fate since it could save you from a worst
An optimist understands that negativity serves a purpose and she
tries to look on the bright side. When you snag your tights before an important
board meeting it makes you feel a lot more human. There’s a silver lining in an
injury – perhaps you were overdoing it and needed some well deserved rest. Hard
times test your mettle and its good to improve your survival skills. As Martin
Luther King once said : the ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in
moments of comfort, but where he stands in times of challenge and controversy.”
|Ride the storms|
Negativity is a judgement and we
can’t help making them. There are some negatives that we can’t find the flip
side of and acts of God are excellent examples. When hurricanes, tsunamis,
earthquakes and freak weather conditions hit and leave people homeless and the
environment devastated its not easy to find the bright side. When there’s a
death through illness or accident we cannot see the purpose. A loving and
heaveny father sends his son to die on a cross seems a contradiction. When we fail and make
mistakes we cannot understand that there is a higher purpose.
Handling our failures is a
learning curve. Dealing with the emotional aftermath and our feelings of not
being good enough is like treading on hot coals – each step hurts. As time passes we see that there was a reason
behind it, an unexpected blessing, a moment of awakening, a resolution that
would never have occurred without the negative event.
So live purposefully and see
negativity as something that is character building and makes you appreciate the good times.
in it and do whatever you can to turn it into a positive.