The toughest place to be a man is right here in the 21st
century. “Man under fire” is the new buzzword for intelligent feminists
everywhere. Certainly some men need a rocket strapped to their derrieres to get
them moving but men are having a hard times in the bleak house of modern
Men are a different kind of animal and every woman knows it.
It’s preposterous to ever believe that woman was created from the rib of man…surely
from his first (and maybe last) brain cell! To be fair, men are from Mars so
those of us on Venus are not surprised by their antics.
Being a man is tough and being a real man even tougher or
near impossible. A man does the bare minimum and a real man goes the extra
mile. There are some who fall into the latter category but too many of the
A man only changes for the better when he’s put under extreme
pressure from either being thrown into prison for a long stretch or when there’s
something in it for him. The selfish gene is live and kicking and can be
evidenced daily by the most innocuous of tasks.
Just ask the man (or men) in your life to cut the grass,
empty the trash, put up decorations or paint or fix a shelf then you’ll notice an intertia
that takes hold. Men are made of resistant materials and their reluctance to
remain on task can be incredulous.
You have to have a little sympathy for a man since they’re
trying to emulate the superior sex and they’re lagging far behind in the high performance
stakes. The most important thing is that they’re trying……maybe too trying!!
In the 21st century, man is called on to be not
merely co-breadwinner but an emotional
support to his family. This is where it gets really tough for some men. When
they’re required for a shoulder to cry on, words of comfort, the offer of money
or general lightening of the emotional load then you might find that you’re
co-habiting with the weakest link.
A man in this century has to be sensitive to the needs of his
nearest and dearest. Sensitivity is like an unused muscle in men and they need
satellite navigation to find it!! Some look but don’t know what it is that they’re
searching for. Some wouldn’t know it if it hit them on the head. Some just don’t
care whilst others pretend to….but they’re fooling no one.
The greatest issue that men face is that women are no longer
filling in for their inadequacies. A woman of intelligence and healthy self
esteem is no longer willing to prop up their “worse-halves”(known in the
previous century as “better-halves”).
Men have been hiding behind their false egos for too long.
They have been lauding it over women and children as the know-it-alls and
be-alls of their domain (home and castle). Their weapons of choice to conquer
and demean are anger, intimidation and violence.
This hellish trinity has brought down many a good woman and
home. You only have to look at the stream of single men and women (divorcees
and unconfirmed singletons) shopping for one or two in the supermarket and you
get the picture. A tin of baked beans and spam don't make for a fun night in!
If a way to man’s heart is through his stomach then men are
taking a hit in it this century. Lovingly prepared meals, cuddles on the sofa
and good night kisses will only feature on the latest “Oxo” TV ad campaign.
But the tide is turning and men are being educated. Men born
in the 21st century are the most fortunate as they’re going to learn
a lot quicker that woman is no lightweight. A man, if he cares to become real,
will have to lose the anger and arm himself with respect and kindness. He’ll
know that kitchen duties are shared and that washing machines can be loaded and
switched on by either sex. It’s a revelation that even child-rearing can be
engaged in with great gusto since paternity leave was granted. Babies need
fathers changing nappies and breaking rest and that seems to have been lost in
the 20th century.
So what was lost can be regained but man has to evolve into a
newer version of himself to save his species and women may have to quit acting
like men (being mother, father, chef, gardener, designer, driver all rolled
into one) to assist them in this initiative.
Men will be multi-taskers in this century and even sensitive souls and that’s got to
be their toughest assignment yet!
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