Monday, 29 November 2010

Uncommon Sense: The myth of "happily ever after"

Uncommon Sense: The myth of "happily ever after"

Wednesday, 24 November 2010

The myth of "happily ever after"

Why is it that we're all so sentimental when we see two people wanting to spend the rest of their lives together? Is this thing called marriage so commercialised that all there is to think about is hearts, flowers, wedding cakes and honeymoons? Sadly it is. People are more interested in the quantity of a union over the quality. No one seems interested in who these two people are and what might befall them once the happy couple remove their rose coloured spectacles.

Most marriages are in shambles. One partner puts up with the other. One partner makes most of the compromises, usually the weaker personality. One partner takes care of the practical tasks with martyr-like zeal but what lies beneath? Festering resentments, daily frustration and mind blowing abuse.
But it's all so subtle that we barely notice the erosion of self esteem.

We sit and ponder why we are fearful, why we procrastinate and are indecisive. The reason being is that our significant other  made us that way and we're too afraid to admit that we were a little bit like that in the first place. After all, our greatest teachers (parents) were dysfunctional themselves and passed on a whole host of quirky behaviour to their offspring.

So what do we do? Do we rage against the machine of society? I say yes. We become quiet rebels, single minded and determined to overthrow the yoke of expectation that partnerships place on us.
We never have to suffer if we accept that it's unacceptable for someone to inflict pain on us.

Let's opt for supportive partners, the wind beneath our wings who are secure in themselves and never try to steal our thunder. Don't know where most of them live but it's not on this planet for sure!

Tuesday, 23 November 2010

Life is a Monologue

Have you ever wondered if it's for real? The daily grind.....working, eating, sleeping and after day? What makes it real? Paying the bills every month, checking your bank statement, doing the washing up or cooking the dinner - is that what it's all about....a long, monotonous to do list!
Well count me out..........

Now don't get me wrong I do all those mindless things but I don't dwell on them and I even rebel against some of them. What on earth does that piece of paper that flies through the letter box each month with a series of transactions, pluses and minuses have to do with your self worth? That statement is not a statement of your true worth. It is a material tool that makes you feel small and gives big powers to institutions.
Establishments tend to do that........they render you powerless......the only solution is to tune them out.....drown yourself in the whirlpool of your thoughts.

The only real thing in my life is me. I spend time with myself and find pleasure and fulfillment.
The life I have within is my biggest thrill. In my world, being real is all I need.